Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What is
homosexuality?
A:
Homosexuality is emotional, romantic, and sexual attraction to persons
of the same sex. The term homosexual has medical roots from the turn of
the last century (early 1900s) and most people now prefer the terms gay
and lesbian instead.
Q: Is homosexuality
normal?
A: Homosexuality is perfectly normal. It is a complete package of feelings and relationships that make up a natural and satisfying identity. Homosexuality has existed throughout humanity's existence. Anthropologists report that lesbians and gay men have been and are a part of every culture. Lesbian, gay, and bisexual people are part of every socioeconomic class, educational level, and race/ethnicity.
Q: What is bisexuality?
A: Bisexuality is
emotional, romantic, and sexual attraction to people whose biological
sex is different than and the same as one's own. Bisexuality is
perfectly normal and is a complete package of feelings and relationships
that make up a natural and satisfying identity. Bisexuality has existed
throughout humanity's existence and in every culture. Lesbian, gay, and
bisexual people are part of every socioeconomic class, educational
level, and race/ethnicity.
Q: Are homosexuality
and bisexuality mental illnesses?
A: Homosexuality and
bisexuality are not mental illnesses. In 1973, the American Psychiatric
Association removed homosexuality from the official listing of
psychiatric disorders. In 1975, the American Psychological Association
adopted a similar resolution. Position statements of the American
Medical Association and the Society for Adolescent Medicine agree with
these affirmations regarding sexual orientation. Studies show that
people's sexual orientation has no bearing on their mental health and
emotional stability. When forced to remain in the closet about one's
homosexuality or bisexuality, a person may experience depression and
other psychological problems; however, these problems stem from a
homophobic society and not from sexual orientation.
Q: What is homophobia?
A: Homophobia is the
irrational fear, disgust, or hatred of gays, lesbians, and/or bisexual
people, or of homosexual feelings in oneself. It refers to the
discomfort one feels with any behavior, belief, or attitude (in self or
others) that does not conform to traditional sex role stereotypes.
Homophobia exhibits itself in the fear of knowing, befriending, or
associating with gays, lesbians, or bisexual people; fear of being
perceived as gay or lesbian; and/or fear of stepping out of accepted
gender role behavior.
Q: What is
heterosexism?
A: Heterosexism is the
assumption that every one is heterosexual. It is a form of oppression**
that targets gays, lesbians, and bisexual people. Heterosexism confers
rights and privileges to heterosexual people that are denied to gay,
lesbian, and bisexual people. This is revealed through personal
behaviors (telling 'faggot' jokes, putting up graffiti, and/or offering
verbal and physical harassment), and discriminatory policies, such as
denial of health, retirement, and housing benefits. In addition,
mainstream media provide few characterizations of gay, lesbian, or
bisexual people, and these few are usually stereotypes.
Q: Do gay men,
lesbians, bisexual people, and transgender people have long-lasting
relationships?
A: Yes, a large portion
of the GLBT community has a preference for, or is involved in, a
longstanding relationship. However, social rejection of homosexuality
and of transgender people frequently causes these relationships to be
invisible. For example, same sex marriages are currently not recognized
in most states, and many benefits for legal spouses are denied to
domestic partners.
Q: How many gay,
lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people are there?
A: The Kinsey Institute
suggested that approximately 10 percent of the population may be gay,
lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. This would equal approximately 28
million (per the U.S. 2000 census). However, the basis for the
percentage is greatly disputed. Gay men, lesbians, and bisexual people
are found in all walks of life, among all racial/ethnic groups, and at
all socioeconomic levels. In addition, the number of transgender people
is greatly disputed and largely unknown. The number is probably higher
than experts estimate because the estimates are usually based on the
number of people who undergo sexual reassignment surgery, and many
transgender people do not pursue this surgery.
Q: When do gay,
lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people first know?
A: People can realize
their sexual orientation and gender identity at any point during their
lives. Many simply grow up knowing, while some come to understand their
identity and orientation later in life (in their teens or 20s, for
example). It is important to note that nothing someone encounters in
life can 'make' one gay, bisexual, lesbian, or transgender. Although
events in a person's life can be catalysts toward self-discovery, sexual
experience is not necessary for anyone to understand their sexual
orientation. How does a heterosexual male know he is attracted to women
before having sexual experience, or a heterosexual woman know that she
is attracted to men? They just know. It is the same with gay, lesbian,
and bisexual people. Similarly, a transgender person does not have to
have lived as a gender to know that it is his/her correct gender.
Q: Where do gay,
lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people belong in the workplace?
A: Like straight people,
GLBT people belong anywhere that they can use their talents and
abilities. Sexual orientation and gender identity have nothing to do
with abilities, talents, or job performance. If forced to remain in the
closet for fear of job discrimination, a person may experience
depression and other psychological problems that could impair his/her
ability to work effectively; but it is homophobia and transphobia—not
sexual orientation or gender identity—that cause the problem.
Q: Why should people be
informed about gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender issues?
A: Heterosexism and
homophobia are the result of ignorance about sexual orientation and
gender identity issues. Education about GLBTQ issues can help combat
fear and discrimination, enabling gay, lesbian, bisexual, and
transgender people to be authentic and not to live a lie of false
heterosexuality or gender identity in order to be safe. For GLBTQ youth,
who are more likely to experience depression and rejection by friends
and/or family, acceptance and understanding can even be a matter of life
and death, since the risk of suicide in GLBTQ adolescents is two to
three times greater than in their straight counterparts.
Q: What causes
homosexuality?
A: Perhaps a better
question is "What determines sexual orientation (i.e., heterosexuality,
bisexuality, and homosexuality)?" The factors that determine sexual
orientation are complex. There is a growing understanding that human
beings have a basic sexuality that can be expressed in a variety of
relationships: homosexual, bisexual, and heterosexual, categories that
are fluid and may overlap. Although the causes are not known, some
researchers believe that one's basic sexual orientation is predisposed
at birth. While one's orientation may not be recognized or acknowledged
for many years, once established, it tends not to change.
Q: Aren't gay and bi
men effeminate and lesbian and bi women masculine?
A: Lesbian, gay, and
bisexual people are as varied in their dress, mannerisms, and lifestyles
as are heterosexual people. Despite this diversity, stereotypes persist
about the effeminate man or masculine woman. Although some gay people
reflect these characteristics, the overwhelming majority of lesbians and
gay men do not conform to these stereotypes. At the same time, many
effeminate men and masculine women are straight.
Q: Aren't gay rights
laws an attempt to get special privileges?
A: Gay rights laws are
civil rights laws consistent with the belief that all people are
entitled to such necessities as employment, housing, and business
services without fear of discrimination. Unfortunately, in many states,
lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people can be fired from their
jobs and denied housing, credit, or insurance solely because of their
sexual orientation, gender identity, and/or gender expression.
Therefore, GLBT people need safeguards to prevent the discrimination
that would limit or deny them opportunities to live equally with the
rest of society.
Q: Do lesbians and gay
men want to be the opposite sex?
A: Although some
lesbians and gay men do not conform to expected gender roles,
most do not want to change their sex. Do not confuse transgender people
with lesbians and gay men.
Q: What is the
difference between sexual preference and sexual orientation?
A: Sexual orientation is
not a choice. Preference implies choice. Being gay, lesbian, or bisexual
is sexual orientation. Sexual preference is a term that might
apply to a bisexual person who prefers people of a particular biological
sex. However, it is important to understand that many bisexual people do
not have a sexual preference.
Q: Won't gay parents
make their kids gay?
A: Research has shown
that children of lesbian or gay parents are no more likely to become gay
or lesbian than children of heterosexual parents. This simply supports
the fact that nothing 'makes' a person gay, lesbian, or bisexual.
Same-sex couples are just as capable of raising a child as are
heterosexual couples.
Q: What do transgender,
transsexual, and crossdresser mean? And, are they the same?
A: First of all, they
are not at all the same. To understand these terms, we must first
understand the difference between biological sex and gender identity.
Biological sex is a physical condition, identified at birth by one's
primary sex characteristics (penis and scrotum for males and vulva,
labia, clitoris, and vagina for females). Gender identity is a
combination of one's personal internal recognition of the gender that is
one's own, the degree to which that internal recognition conforms or
fails to conform to one's biological sex, and how one desires to be
recognized by others: as male, female, or genderqueer. Transgender,
transsexual, and crossdressing people may have any sexual orientation.
- Transgender
Q: What does it mean to
be intersex?
A: Intersex people (once
called hermaphrodites) are people born with ambiguous genitalia or
genitalia having characteristics of both sexes. Usually a doctor will
immediately perform surgery to assign the infant's sex, usually removing
male characteristics and 'creating' a female. Because this surgery is
medically unnecessary, advocates today are asking that doctors and
parents wait until the child is old enough to self-identify the
appropriate biological sex and gender and also old enough to choose
whether or not to have the surgery. Some who had surgery as infants
later experience conflict with their assigned gender, similar to that
experienced by transgender people. They may opt for hormone therapy and
surgery to transition to the gender that they should have had. About one
in every 2,000 people is intersex.
Q: What does the term
'queer' mean?
A: This word, once a
derogatory term for gay men, bisexuals, lesbians, and transgender
people, has recently been reclaimed by the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and
transgender community as a term of pride. However, many have not chosen
to reclaim the word and still see it as a derogatory, similar to the
terms 'dyke' and 'fag.'
Q: There are only two
genders, right?
A: Traditionally, gender
has meant either 'male' or 'female.' Gender is the collection of
behaviors, dress, attitudes, etc., culturally assigned to people
according to their biological sex. However, there is really a range of
genders, including male and female, but also including genderqueer or
gender ambiguous, butch (man or woman), femme (man or woman),
transgender (sometimes considered a gender), and many others.
Q: What is pansexuality?
What is genderqueer?
A: The term 'bisexual' implies a sexual attraction
towards people whose biological sex is different than and the same as
one's own. Since, however, there are more than two genders, some people
do not self-identify as bisexual, finding themselves attracted to people
across a spectrum of genders. These people have adopted different terms,
including pansexual, a term that can also apply to people whose gender
is fluid or who consider themselves genderqueer (or genderless).http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/safespace/faq.htm