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The 5 Needs: Power and Respect
Power has been defined by Professor Linda James Myers (Ohio
State University) as the ability to define our reality. The need for power,
therefore, refers to a person's sense of being in control over his or her own
life (as opposed to feeling helpless). Feeling respected by others
contributes to one's sense of empowerment. Competence, self-efficacy,
self-confidence, effectiveness, achievement, leadership, attention,
appreciation, recognition, admiration, and validation are encompassed within the
need for power and respect. The following situations are examples of ways in
which this need is satisfied.
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When someone listens to us attentively and gives careful
consideration to our ideas
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When we achieve something meaningful
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When we successfully complete a challenging task
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When someone supports an action we have taken
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When others do what we ask them to
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When we "stand up for ourselves"
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When our talents, skills, personal attributes, or
accomplishments are recognized by others, whether that recognition consists of
an approving glance or gesture, a verbal or written compliment, or a public
tribute
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When we feel that we have contributed something worthwhile or
made an impact
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When we believe that we are making a difference, that life is
better because of our presence
Likewise, anything that diminishes the sense of control over our
life frustrates the satisfaction of the power-and-respect need, leaving us
feeling like Rodney Dangerfield ("I don't get any respect"). Following are some
examples of situations that might threaten the fulfillment of a person's power
and respect need.
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When a student is bullied in school
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When a child (or adult) is ignored by authority figures or peers
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When a person's reputation/good name is attacked
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When a person's ideas, values, work, or beliefs are attacked
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When a person has been insulted or abused
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When something (either material or intangible) belonging to a
person has been stolen
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When one person takes advantage of another person
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When someone fails to accomplish what he or she set out to do,
particularly if that achievement is important to oneself or others
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When someone fails to meet the expectations of self or others
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